What Is Wrong With Body Shaming?
Makeover Photoshoot with Caroline Wyatt, the Life Coach who is empowering women .
We do it to ourselves on a daily basis. Our constant and negative internal dialogue can be vicious.
So how did we become like this? Is our behaviour a reflection of our society and how the media operate? It most definitely has an influence, and for years we have been subjected to the ideal of how a woman should look.
If it is not acceptable to openly judge and criticise others based upon their appearance – why are we so good at doing it to ourselves? We are usually our own harshest critic.
If you have no idea what I am talking about – take a moment to think about the way you speak to yourself. Most people are not even conscious of what the messages are: they are repeated constantly and unconsciously. Low self-confidence, low self-esteem, depression and body image issues are the most common. Women are experts at beating themselves up.
Once you become aware of your habits and the language you use to talk to yourself – you can decide how well this serves you.
Becoming conscious of how you speak to yourself might lead to the realisation that your thoughts determine how you feel about yourself. Write the words down, how many of them are positive, empowering affirmations?
Your feelings create your emotions. Your emotional state determines the quality of your decisions and therefore the quality of your life. That is Fact.
So if you wake up in the morning and decide you hate yourself, you look: fat, ugly, old, wrinkly, saggy……(replace with whatever other words you may have) you are creating the feelings for the day. Over time this becomes such a mantra people dislike themselves and don’t really know why.
It is also true that the way we see ourselves – is very rarely the way others see us. We assume so much. I know it is difficult to change something you are not doing consciously and also that you might have done for such a long time – but as a first step, may I suggest you just try to be a little kinder to yourself.
I do believe in positive reinforcement – but in order to truly accept yourself for the wonderfully unique human being that you are – you need to begin to change your approach. It is commonly said that it takes 21 days to change a habit.
So my challenge to you would be – take 21 days and for each day find something positive to say to yourself. We are busy people. But life is short and we owe it to ourselves and our families to live the best life we can – wherever we are – with what we have.
Don’t compare and despair – you will never be someone else – ever – BUT – and this is a huge BUT – you can be a different and better version of yourself. Just think about how can you improve your life?
Once you believe that you deserve to feel good – you might change your language, your diet, your drinking habits, your exercise regime….whatever it takes – don’t beat yourself up - try a different approach.
I recently had my photos taken with Charlie and Michelle for my coaching business and as another step in my own personal journey. Six years ago I significantly changed my life, or to be more precise – my perspective. I - like most people am on a journey, but perhaps where mine differs is that I made a conscious choice to own my journey – to direct my life and to not just allow life to happen to me.
Part of that process was addressing my own issues, lack of self-confidence, poor body image, negative self-talk, a fear of public speaking, and a total lack of purpose!
I figured out my purpose and found something I am passionate about. I quit my 20 year corporate JOB, walked on fire, reclaimed myself. Became a coach and focused my energy on the empowerment of women – who are naturally very good at holding themselves back with their wild range of limiting beliefs. Fear limits your life to within your zone of comfort. I have pushed myself out of this zone constantly – your life expands as you push your own boundaries. It feels amazing when you face your fears and overcome them.
The experience and process of accepting yourself -is being kind to yourself- and to those who love you. Seeing yourself in a different light is something every woman should experience – to have a picture of yourself that you LOVE is an amazing feeling. I highly recommend it.
Article by Caroline Wyatt